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- What You Really Really Want: How to Pursue a Real Sexuality in the Real World
All women have questions at the intersections of sex and safety. And it’s no wonder: our culture bombards women and girls with mixed messages every day. We’re supposed to be innocent virgins who excel at stripper-pole workouts. We’re failures if we don’t act sexy, but we’re sluts if we actually pursue sex. We need to be protected from rapists lurking in bushes, but deserve “whatever we get” if we have a drink at a party and wear a skirt. In this interactive talk, we’ll begin the work of separating fear from fact, decoding the dangerous messages all around us, and discovering a healthy personal sexuality. Participants will build new skills for safely expressing that sexuality with lovers, explore effective ways to talk about tricky issues with family and friends, and learn how to make the world a little safer for everyone else’s sexuality along the way.
- Beyond Consent: How Reclaiming Sexuality Combats Sexual Violence
Through media manipulation, religious propaganda, government laws and institutions and more, women are systematically alienated from our own, authentic sexuality. Beyond the basic unfairness of the situation, it leaves us living in confusion, denial, and fear, makes us easily manipulated by those who want to sell us endless streams of crap and those who want to do physical violence to us, and winds up alienating us from each other as well, encouraging us to turn on each other, rather than work together to fight back. In this talk, Jaclyn demonstrates how building a stronger relationship with our authentic sexuality is a powerful act of resistance — one of the most powerful ways we can all reverse the effects sexualization and sexual violence.
- Sane, Safe & Strong: Creating a safe and healthy sexual culture for your community
Based on Friedman’s hit book Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape, this talk connects the dots between how the culture shames women for expressing their sexuality, how the media uses empty images of female sexuality to fuel sales, and how rape is allowed to function in society. Friedman will lead an interactive discussion about the ways you and the rest of your campus or community can create a culture that supports healthy sexuality and makes sexual violence rare, clear and swiftly punished.
- Enthusiastic Consent: A new model for better – and safer – sexuality
What if, instead of just the absence of “no,” an enthusiastic “yes” was required as a standard for sexual consent? What if, instead of treating sex like a commodity that women need to guard and men need to get, our culture viewed sex as a collaborative improv performance? We’ll smash the boxes and explore some radical paradigm shifts that just might heal our sickly sexual culture – and talk about how to get there from here.
and many other topics related to sex, sexuality, rape, media, and feminism
